Little Bit'a Lust
According to my crack research team, The Go Ogle Corporation, Goats are pretty much the symbol for lust. Baby goats will try to copulate within the first week of their birth. They don't have any of the necessary developments to impregnate a female goat yet, but why should they let that stop them? Because of this trait, goats have also been portrayed as lustful in the myths of many different cultures, such as Pan in the Greek culture, a half human-half goat being, who spent all day in the forest trying to seduce wood nymphs. And let's face it, who wouldn't want that job?
Granted, goats aren't the only animals who behave with wanton lust. In writing this article, I found a great example sitting right behind my chair. This is my dog Fox. That red thing in his paws is his KONG toy, in to which I have slipped two liver snaps. I'm not sure if Fox finds if fun to try to dig them out, but he's now been at this for three hours, and shows no signs of stopping. I would go so far as to say he's lusting after those liver snaps. They consume his mind and he's obsessed with getting them from his KONG to his tummy.
And then we come to humans. Lust, like Envy, is a sin that burns in people. The difference between lust and envy though, is that while envy burns cold (ie. no one left you a piece of birthday cake, but so what, the cake probably wasn't that good anyway), lust burns red hot. People do some pretty stupid things while under the actions of lust because it's an in the moment kind of sin. Envy is cold and calculating, waiting for the right moment. Lust is irrational and demands that you do something RIGHT NOW.
The example of lust that I see the most isn't specific to just our industry. It's in every industry I've ever worked in or observed and I would say it's probably a byproduct of the "middle management age." It's that unquenchable lust for professional power. We can call it drive, or being motivated to advance in our careers, but at the end of the day it just comes down to lust.
When I had just started in the industry, a manager at a sister property to ours had to fire her assistant manager. Being young and not understanding the HR faux pas it was, when I saw her the next time, I asked her what had happened. Her assistant had always seemed very sweet to me and had been very helpful in getting me acquainted with the duties of my new job. She was always willing to lend a hand and appeared to be very on top of everything. I couldn't imagine why anyone would fire someone like that. What that manager told me has always stuck with me, and every time I start to get in that lusty mood for power, I hear her words resonate in my head:
On top of which, I've rarely seen this happen where these kinds of "crap-tics" actually work. I don't care how sneaky you think you are. I don't care how manipulative you think you are. I don't care if you're a full out sociopath who can hide it all really well and put on the face you want people to see. If you pull these stunts, people will find you out, and then you're not only not moving up in the job, but you might very well lose the career you're trying to build. It's a small industry and we all talk to each other. Trust me when I tell you, if you're applying for a job, odds are the person screening resumes knows why you left/got fired from your last one already, or they know someone who knows. You really can't throw mud on someone without getting a little on your suit as well.
And when it comes down to the meat of it, what is it that we're really lusting after here? It's a title, maybe a pay raise, possibly a little respect...but really it's the ability to sit in our new job and start the cycle all over again, not doing the job we're in, but rather spending all our time lusting for the job above us.
Do you want to be promoted? Get a raise? Get acknowledged? I can tell you how you can get that without giving in to dirty tactics and sneaky tricks.
DO. YOUR. JOB.
It's pretty simple. Live in the day and understand that, while it's important to have those goals and ambitions for the future, where you work today is where you work today. As the musical Avenue Q teaches us, "Everything in life is only for now." So embrace your now. Give your now job everything you've got and I can tell you from experience, SOMEONE will take notice. Be consistent in giving it all you've got and a lot more people will take notice. Focus on your team and focus on being a good employee, and when the opportunity to advance comes down the line, your name will be on that list. And this time, you'll actually deserve it, which means you'll enjoy your new position a whole lot more, because you won't be sitting there, day after day, thinking about how to knock out the person in front of you again.
(I'm doing this blog series to promote my new seminar on the 7Deadly Property Management Sins through BTLD Consulting! If you're interested in booking out for the seminar for your team or apartment association, shoot me an email at heather@behindtheleasingdesk.com)
Granted, goats aren't the only animals who behave with wanton lust. In writing this article, I found a great example sitting right behind my chair. This is my dog Fox. That red thing in his paws is his KONG toy, in to which I have slipped two liver snaps. I'm not sure if Fox finds if fun to try to dig them out, but he's now been at this for three hours, and shows no signs of stopping. I would go so far as to say he's lusting after those liver snaps. They consume his mind and he's obsessed with getting them from his KONG to his tummy.
And then we come to humans. Lust, like Envy, is a sin that burns in people. The difference between lust and envy though, is that while envy burns cold (ie. no one left you a piece of birthday cake, but so what, the cake probably wasn't that good anyway), lust burns red hot. People do some pretty stupid things while under the actions of lust because it's an in the moment kind of sin. Envy is cold and calculating, waiting for the right moment. Lust is irrational and demands that you do something RIGHT NOW.
The example of lust that I see the most isn't specific to just our industry. It's in every industry I've ever worked in or observed and I would say it's probably a byproduct of the "middle management age." It's that unquenchable lust for professional power. We can call it drive, or being motivated to advance in our careers, but at the end of the day it just comes down to lust.
When I had just started in the industry, a manager at a sister property to ours had to fire her assistant manager. Being young and not understanding the HR faux pas it was, when I saw her the next time, I asked her what had happened. Her assistant had always seemed very sweet to me and had been very helpful in getting me acquainted with the duties of my new job. She was always willing to lend a hand and appeared to be very on top of everything. I couldn't imagine why anyone would fire someone like that. What that manager told me has always stuck with me, and every time I start to get in that lusty mood for power, I hear her words resonate in my head:
"Heather, you can't cut someone's throat to get their job."And that's what lust makes us do. We aren't happy with where we are, so instead of focusing on doing our job, and doing it really well, we spend our time dreaming about where we could be if only our supervisor wasn't in the way. We focus on ways to get our supervisor out of the equation. I've seen this manifest itself in several ways, everything thing from a team pulling a full out mutiny, to people setting up others by messing up the books, to people erasing things off the make ready board to make other people look bad when the move in comes and the apartment isn't ready. When someone has a position, or contact, or a relationship that we think we should have we call in to question just HOW they got that relationship and if there's any of that ole' hanky panky going on behind the manager's closed door. Gossip and innuendo kill that person's reputation before they even know what hit them. So, yeah, it's effective, but it makes you a pretty cutthroat and crappy person.
On top of which, I've rarely seen this happen where these kinds of "crap-tics" actually work. I don't care how sneaky you think you are. I don't care how manipulative you think you are. I don't care if you're a full out sociopath who can hide it all really well and put on the face you want people to see. If you pull these stunts, people will find you out, and then you're not only not moving up in the job, but you might very well lose the career you're trying to build. It's a small industry and we all talk to each other. Trust me when I tell you, if you're applying for a job, odds are the person screening resumes knows why you left/got fired from your last one already, or they know someone who knows. You really can't throw mud on someone without getting a little on your suit as well.
And when it comes down to the meat of it, what is it that we're really lusting after here? It's a title, maybe a pay raise, possibly a little respect...but really it's the ability to sit in our new job and start the cycle all over again, not doing the job we're in, but rather spending all our time lusting for the job above us.
Do you want to be promoted? Get a raise? Get acknowledged? I can tell you how you can get that without giving in to dirty tactics and sneaky tricks.
DO. YOUR. JOB.
It's pretty simple. Live in the day and understand that, while it's important to have those goals and ambitions for the future, where you work today is where you work today. As the musical Avenue Q teaches us, "Everything in life is only for now." So embrace your now. Give your now job everything you've got and I can tell you from experience, SOMEONE will take notice. Be consistent in giving it all you've got and a lot more people will take notice. Focus on your team and focus on being a good employee, and when the opportunity to advance comes down the line, your name will be on that list. And this time, you'll actually deserve it, which means you'll enjoy your new position a whole lot more, because you won't be sitting there, day after day, thinking about how to knock out the person in front of you again.
(I'm doing this blog series to promote my new seminar on the 7Deadly Property Management Sins through BTLD Consulting! If you're interested in booking out for the seminar for your team or apartment association, shoot me an email at heather@behindtheleasingdesk.com)








Great post Heather! I'm sure we've all worked with those types, and it can be tough to manage them. On the one hand, that kind of drive and ambition are exactly the qualities we look for in employees - because we don't want sloths in our offices, no siree! - but on the other hand, we need employees who will respect their coworkers and supervisors, and will not deliberately sabotage anyone else's work or character in an attempt to get ahead. That's why it's so important to communicate expectations and standards of behaviour ... not that it will weed out all the bad apples, but if you promote a culture of teamwork and cooperation, employees will be more likely to work with the company instead of against it.
And, in continuation of the musical theme, I give you Rent!: "No day but today!"
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Sara-
You crack me up! Anything geeky I can do, you can do better
Drive and determination are what we look for. It's easy to motivate people who lust to get ahead. They thrive on the competition and money works. But you should never hire drive and determination without a good heart behind it. Harder to motivate yes, but far better in the long run. They'll stay loyal to you. Lusty folks, they jump from your tree to the next tree that has bigger bananas.
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I will tell you one of the first things that came to my mind that is a by-product of lust in the work place-sexual harassment. Many of the items you described that employees may do to each other are items that can be construed as sexual harassment. So whether its lust for someone's job or lust towards an individual, people need to consider the long term consequences of not keeping their "lust" under control-- Thanks Heather
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There were a lot of ways I could have gone with this one actually, and sexual harassment was one of the options I was considering, but I think I want to do a WHOLE TON of research on that one before I put anything to the keyboard on that powder keg of a topic. And I also might save it for a special day... like Clarence Thomas's birthday.
Self control isn't something that we teach our kids as much as we used to. Maybe instead of worrying about getting kids to regurgitate test answers, we should be educating them on how to be good little humans. Just a thought.
Thanks Jon!
Heather
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Alright, I can't help myself - this calls to mind Annie Get Your Gun: "Anything you can do, I can do better!" Great post Heather! You're so right that ultimately this lusty attitude does not work. Karma, or whatever you want to call it, may allow you to reach your desired heights of achievement - but at what cost. Loss of respect, loss of clout, loss of relationships. What is the position/title/salary worth when all your subordinates and peers don't care to work with you or for you? Business is about relationships, and regardless of the industry, you're right wen you say it's a small world. Good stuff here!
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Ha! Nobody wants my job, but I'm sure I've had plenty of employees think they could do it better. I did. This thought actually applies more to the "pride" post.
Little do most employees know, you have way more stress and issues to deal with than they ever see or even should see. However, I do believe it is great to give them an idea about what your job entails WITHOUT complaining, and it is really great to find a gem in the rough and train them up.
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